Reflections on the relationship of respect, love, and obedience in marriage by the Rev. Mr. Patrick Conway, Deacon at Resurrection Catholic Community in Aptos, CA. Deacon Patrick is a married man and father of five children. This post is a reprint of his homily for "Elbow Sunday," the 21st Sunday of Ordinary Time on which St. Paul’s letter to the Ephesians (5:21-32) is read. Deacon Patrick presents a distinctly Catholic understanding of St. Paul's teaching.